My Kink, Your Kink.

It is remarkable, and somewhat astounding when considered, how many unique and individual kinks have been expressed, developed, and even taught by the BDSM community. However, for all of the physical exhibitionism of these interests, through events, workshops, literature, and media, there is an amazing plethora of ignorant-minded individuals who lack both the insight and respect when it comes to kinks they do not indulge in themselves.

I give you an example, for starters. It is very well known in my local group, and accepted, that I am a masochist and I have the ability to play very, very hard. This does not mean that each and every time I scene, it is what happens. However, there is an intensity, and a very clearly tangible undercurrent of possible risk, with most of what I do.

There are people who not only, do not understand my interests, but also because of their lack of education, feel it is acceptable to question my judgement and ability to be a responsible, risk-aware participant. Too, some of these same people offer forth the idea of segregating the more edgier kink, from that which is more often commonly accepted and practiced.

Who decides here? Who makes the judgement call as to what exactly constitutes a high-risk sort of play in which there should be a separate area needed? Exactly what is the point of allowing those people to stay within the safe and blessed comfort zone of that which I like to call ignorance? We profess to have tolerance, understanding, and acceptance as a community. I do not believe being divided amongst ourselves with the thoughts of "My kink is OK, but yours is so very wrong" is conducive to growth or development.

As responsible adults, we are capable of choice. As aware adults, we accept and recognise the choices of others. As kinksters, lifestylers, and players, we respect choice as being inherent for all involvement in BDSM.

I am not going to hide my kink behind a screen.